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General Discussion / Re: Best non-medical tips to beat PPND
« Last post by gvan6 on February 23, 2018, 05:52:00 PM »
yes, I totally agree with @rssooner, It helped me a lot this way, communication is important and I think 1-night good uninterrupted sleep after I talked with my wife helped me get myself reset. I also occasionally go riding around with my electric unicycle when I feel like trapped and have 10-15 minutes to spare. gives me some fresh air and see a bit the outside world. it does revive my mood again. I also take some vitamin supplements but for that maybe you should consult a nutritionist
General Discussion / Re: Best non-medical tips to beat PPND
« Last post by rssooner on February 19, 2018, 07:19:07 AM »

First, thanks for posting on the site.  It really takes a strong person to know that things aren't going the way you would of liked and to do something about it to be a better husband and father.  I got help and it did eventually involve taking medication but for those who want to avoid them, I believe there are a few things that really helped me along with medication.

1. Excercise, Excercise Excercise!!  I can not stress enough how much this helps.  It is a natual anti-depressant.  it relieves stress and anxiety and helps your self esteem.

2.  Have a good diet.  goes along with #1 and will make you look and feel completely different

3.  Avoid drugs/alcohol to numb the anxiety or depression.

4.  Communicate a lot with your spouse and don't let your emotions build up inside.

I hope this helps.

General Discussion / Best non-medical tips to beat PPND
« Last post by Dinz on January 29, 2018, 04:58:35 AM »
Hello everyone,

I'm a 36 yo french dad, and I've been experiencing PPND for a few months, with the birth of my first born son, Georges (4 months old now).
Georges is doing fine, and so is his mother, but I'm having a really hard time : anxiety, very bad sleep, low mood, feeling trapped. I'm seeing a therapist, and it helps a lot but it seems like recovery takes time, as I'm not taking any medication. I'd like to have your advise on the best practices you've tested outside medication and classic therapy : what worked for you, particularly if you had anxiety matters.

Thanks a lot,

General Discussion / Re: Welcome To The New Forum, Dads! Please Join The Discussion
« Last post by Siniestr0 on January 15, 2018, 05:14:25 AM »
can you please stop the spam???
General Discussion / Struggle between cultures
« Last post by gvan6 on January 05, 2018, 05:42:58 AM »
I put myself in a particular situation, that I never thought it could go this far. I'm new here and I didn't read much yet around but would like to share what I am through.

I am raised in a different culture, and my wife really relies much on me when it's just me and her (I also do rely on her back and she did make a difference in my life. We have healthy opposing forces that always push us to a better tomorrow together). Since we got married, her father told her to follow their traditions (which is what my country was 20years before I was born to my knowledge) but I said ok, we stick to it to what relates to them and we live our married life to nowadays. This went fine until our first newborn, her parents are spending quite some time with us (actually her mother came over for the first month of the son's birth to assist my wife's recovery) and I feel I crashed, I never think bad about anyone but I actually pictured myself punching her father (a next to never thing I did with anyone). Everything I do with my son goes through research first to make sure it's the thing to do, concerned about safety and healthy upbringing (as we never had prenatal classes) and always challenge my ideas to research (to which it feels I am doing prety well), while my wife with respect to her parents she listens to what they suggest, leaving me fighting (emotionally) with all the time with everyone.

Mostly it's concerned health and safety to our son. He is strong and healthy, her parents are experienced with 6 children, never the less they never thought certain clothes might be dangerous to let a newborn sleep with and I calm myself down by letting them do. I am afraid my moods might affect my son, and worse my son gets permanently affected. I am finding the energy (actually making my body believe so with a cup or 2 of strong coffee) to spend whole night awake just to spend little time alone with him and makes me feel better than having to wake up all the time at night because his mother wants to look over him. The first 4 hours when all wake up then I take my sleep. Maybe I am over protective and worrying too much too. His mother (my wife) seems to be doing fine and although she can't stand a cry to reach to him, she seems calm with anything her siblings or parents do with him.

I do believe I got weaker since the night I told my 2-week son that I'm sorry to bring you into this world. I did soon after think it's no big deal what we're passing through and once we are back on her own we will be ok (like many other healthy children). Today it's the third week and I was angry enough to lock my family in our room telling my wife it's our son and we know what's right for him, no need to be dictated about his upbringing. a few minutes later I am questioning myself and doing research on whether I should be seeking assistance.

PS, a bit of background info; I am in a country that I have a huge language barrier, but I manage to spend years (back and forth to my country) here but I can't do a complex conversation esp when no one speaks english here and her parents don't even speak the common language but a dialect (to which I would need to rely to my wife to translate). I am also moving my work (a new thing) to a mobile one wich also has it's pressure in establishing something new out of your knowledge borders to rely on a financial income, but we are all fine set for a few months or years with huge support from my family back in my country.

I'd be pleased if anyone can highlight or suggest anything that might do for me and hope this helps anyone in same situation that they are not alone.
General Discussion / Re: Daughter with cerebral palsy
« Last post by Nejolneka on December 21, 2017, 09:40:15 AM »
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General Discussion / Re: Welcome Dads
« Last post by Nejolneka on December 21, 2017, 09:40:08 AM »
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General Discussion / Re: Dad of Two Girls
« Last post by Nejolneka on December 20, 2017, 12:58:53 PM »
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General Discussion / Re: Daughter with cerebral palsy
« Last post by Nejolneka on December 20, 2017, 12:58:45 PM »
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General Discussion / Daughter with cerebral palsy
« Last post by sjpas on December 01, 2017, 06:26:25 PM »

A year ago my ex gave birth to twins. During the pregnancy a complication arose where we were told one of our daughters would have severe cerebral palsy (unable to walk, see, speak, chronic pain and infections, epilepsy).  I was for late term abortion, my ex was not...which is why she's my ex now.

We were told that our daughter (Eliza) would have difficulty surviving her first year.  I didn't have an issue taking care of her when I had her because I kinda thought she was going to die soon.  Well it turns out she's doing better than expected and I want to die. I hate caring for her, when she cries I want to run away and leave her screaming in the crib. I don't know how I will ever care about her. I just feel like caring for her is a waste of time. She is never going to even acknowledge that I exist. I just want to run away and never see her ever again.

But there's my other daughter (Aster) in this too.  She is developing completely normally and gives me routine joy when I get to see her.  She has a strong connection to me and we have a lot of fun playing games together. Unfortunately I feel like my connection with Aster isn't developing normally either cause I'm dreading having to care for Eliza thanklessly for the rest of my life. I'm pretty sure if I run away from Aster then I'll regret it immediately, and for the rest of my life.  But I don't know if I can just see my 'normal' daughter and fuck off from the one I get depressed thinking about (I don't think the courts will like that very much, also Aster will probably hate me when she's older).

So then my options are essentially to run away from it all or just accept the reality of both my children. But fuck that. fuck that. I don't give a shit about Eliza as far as I can feel right now.. I feel like I'm being dragged into caring about her by the people around me, and I'm dying inside every second I think about the next eighteen years.

Anyway, just wanted to rant a bit and get my thoughts down. I'm glad this has been set up for us all.
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