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Welcome to the PostpartumMen online forum. This is the first and only online community for men with concerns about depression, anxiety or other mood disruptions after the birth of a child. We hope this is a comfortable place for you to find information and get support from other dads to help in your recovery. Please be aware that PostpartumMen reserves the right to delete any post that we believe is inflammatory, derogatory or hurtful. We want the men who post here to know they’re safe from judgement when revealing their very private concerns. I will try to visit the forum as much as possible. However, this forum is primarily intended to serve as an online community of self-help and mutual support. If you have a concern about a posting, email me at DrWill@SadDaddy.com. Please understand that I am unable to respond to individual emails regarding mental health concerns.

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« Last post by rssooner on September 23, 2017, 07:11:12 AM »
Hello

I was a long time user of this forum/website many years ago.  If I wouldn't of found this forum a couple of weeks after my son was born over 9 years ago I don't know what it would of been like.  Dr. Will informed me that the this new version of the website was up and I wanted to post something to welcome those who will utilize it and hopefully this site will help you as much as it helped me.

Let me give you a quick overview of my story...  I was married for almost 4 years and we planned to have our son.  I was an extremely proud and happy father to be.  Son was born and it was great.  2 weeks into my son's life, I was VERY sleep deprived, frustrated about being a clueless father and worried about being the best father I could be.  I put a lot of pressure on me and my wife to be perfect parents.  That was completely unrealistic.  We had a lot of close friends and family over for a celebration and as everyone was leaving, a huge overwhelming feeling of panic, anxiety and a feeling of being left behind and trapped overcame me.  It spiraled out of control and I could not snap myself out of it.  I pulled away mentally and physically from being a father and husband.  I became very depressed, sad and anxious.  I would cry uncontrollably at times.  I was a mess.  I felt extremely guilty for being in this situation.  I knew I needed to get help.

I decided to go and see a psychologist to work through my situation and I also went to a psychiatrist to get on an anti-depressant.  It was the smartest decision I have ever done.  I worked through my feelings and my false beliefs on how being a father should be and realized that I don't have to have all the answers.  I learned how to enjoy the situation I was in.

Since then, I have helped Dr. Will and hopefully other fathers in similar situations by doing interviews for many magazines and major television networks.  I was in a depressive episode that I wouldn't of wanted my worse enemy to go through and if I can help someone out there then it's worth all of the time I spent.   

Utilize this forum to help yourself and to help other fathers going through similar challenges. 

Rob
 

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