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« Last post by rssooner on September 23, 2017, 07:11:12 AM »Hello
I was a long time user of this forum/website many years ago. If I wouldn't of found this forum a couple of weeks after my son was born over 9 years ago I don't know what it would of been like. Dr. Will informed me that the this new version of the website was up and I wanted to post something to welcome those who will utilize it and hopefully this site will help you as much as it helped me.
Let me give you a quick overview of my story... I was married for almost 4 years and we planned to have our son. I was an extremely proud and happy father to be. Son was born and it was great. 2 weeks into my son's life, I was VERY sleep deprived, frustrated about being a clueless father and worried about being the best father I could be. I put a lot of pressure on me and my wife to be perfect parents. That was completely unrealistic. We had a lot of close friends and family over for a celebration and as everyone was leaving, a huge overwhelming feeling of panic, anxiety and a feeling of being left behind and trapped overcame me. It spiraled out of control and I could not snap myself out of it. I pulled away mentally and physically from being a father and husband. I became very depressed, sad and anxious. I would cry uncontrollably at times. I was a mess. I felt extremely guilty for being in this situation. I knew I needed to get help.
I decided to go and see a psychologist to work through my situation and I also went to a psychiatrist to get on an anti-depressant. It was the smartest decision I have ever done. I worked through my feelings and my false beliefs on how being a father should be and realized that I don't have to have all the answers. I learned how to enjoy the situation I was in.
Since then, I have helped Dr. Will and hopefully other fathers in similar situations by doing interviews for many magazines and major television networks. I was in a depressive episode that I wouldn't of wanted my worse enemy to go through and if I can help someone out there then it's worth all of the time I spent.
Utilize this forum to help yourself and to help other fathers going through similar challenges.
Rob
I was a long time user of this forum/website many years ago. If I wouldn't of found this forum a couple of weeks after my son was born over 9 years ago I don't know what it would of been like. Dr. Will informed me that the this new version of the website was up and I wanted to post something to welcome those who will utilize it and hopefully this site will help you as much as it helped me.
Let me give you a quick overview of my story... I was married for almost 4 years and we planned to have our son. I was an extremely proud and happy father to be. Son was born and it was great. 2 weeks into my son's life, I was VERY sleep deprived, frustrated about being a clueless father and worried about being the best father I could be. I put a lot of pressure on me and my wife to be perfect parents. That was completely unrealistic. We had a lot of close friends and family over for a celebration and as everyone was leaving, a huge overwhelming feeling of panic, anxiety and a feeling of being left behind and trapped overcame me. It spiraled out of control and I could not snap myself out of it. I pulled away mentally and physically from being a father and husband. I became very depressed, sad and anxious. I would cry uncontrollably at times. I was a mess. I felt extremely guilty for being in this situation. I knew I needed to get help.
I decided to go and see a psychologist to work through my situation and I also went to a psychiatrist to get on an anti-depressant. It was the smartest decision I have ever done. I worked through my feelings and my false beliefs on how being a father should be and realized that I don't have to have all the answers. I learned how to enjoy the situation I was in.
Since then, I have helped Dr. Will and hopefully other fathers in similar situations by doing interviews for many magazines and major television networks. I was in a depressive episode that I wouldn't of wanted my worse enemy to go through and if I can help someone out there then it's worth all of the time I spent.
Utilize this forum to help yourself and to help other fathers going through similar challenges.
Rob